Parenting in the modern world is a complex endeavor. On a recent episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sat down with Jordan Shapiro. He is a professor at Temple University and author of Father Figure: How to Be a Feminist Dad. Shapiro’s work centers on rethinking traditional gender norms. It focuses on equipping children to navigate an ever-changing world. This conversation provides insightful perspectives for men exploring fatherhood, parenting, and personal growth.
“I grew up in Philadelphia, a city deeply rooted in sports culture and traditional masculinity. I never felt like I fully fit into those norms,” Shapiro recalls. His experience as an outsider in these spaces led him to explore how societal expectations shape boys and men. Shapiro started by focusing on parenting but soon expanded to discussing gender norms. He realized that issues of fatherhood are deeply connected to broader cultural changes. Such as feminism and social justice. This shift led him to explore how these larger movements influence family dynamics.
“If we want to raise kids for a changing world,” Shapiro explains, “we can’t ignore the evolving conversations around gender and equality.” He emphasizes the importance of challenging toxic traits often associated with masculinity. Such as dominance and emotional suppression. These should be challenged while advocating for values like empathy and collaboration.
Shapiro and Azoulay discussed the concept of masculinity through the lens of generational change. From stoic “boomer” masculinity to the “nice guy” millennial archetype, Shapiro highlights the next step. He argues that it involves a balanced approach. “We need a version of masculinity rooted in personal values, not a reaction to past models,” he says. Shapiro’s book challenges stereotypical masculine traits. It explores how gender roles are socially constructed. He notes, “There’s no biological basis for associating strength with masculinity. Or nurturing with femininity. These are cultural expectations, and they’re holding us back.” Fathers can challenge traditional gender norms to promote a more inclusive masculinity. This helps create healthier, more diverse models of manhood. This approach helps children understand and embrace emotional intelligence. As a result, fathers can model healthier ways of being for the next generation.
One of the central themes in the episode was the importance of emotional intelligence in parenting. Shapiro explains, “Kids don’t need constant happiness. They need the right emotions for the right situations.” He highlights the need for fathers to model emotional regulation. They need to validate their children’s feelings rather than trying to fix every problem.
Shapiro also discusses the challenges of setting boundaries with kids in the digital age. Parents must not fear technology. He suggests focusing on core values like kindness and critical thinking. “Whether they’re on the playground or social media, the goal is the same. Raising compassionate and thoughtful human beings,” he says.
Shapiro’s insights extend beyond the nuclear family. He explores the double standards of men and women. He highlights the toxic traits perpetuated by traditional gender norms. “The backlash we see today, whether it’s the rise of the manosphere or resistance to feminism, often stems from fear of change,” Shapiro notes. He encourages fathers to embrace these changes. He wants them to create a more equitable environment for their children. His concept of “how to be a feminist dad” goes beyond supporting daughters. It’s about modeling inclusivity and teaching sons to navigate a world where gender expectations are more fluid. “When we stop associating traits like empathy and nurturing with femininity,” Shapiro argues, “we allow boys to develop into well-rounded individuals.”
Becoming a dad in today’s world means rethinking outdated models. It focuses on embracing values like emotional intelligence, inclusivity, and adaptability. Shapiro’s approach offers guidance for fathers who want to prepare their children for a changing world. It helps them navigate the complexities of today’s society. Fathers can shape the next generation by challenging traditional gender norms. Focusing on core human values helps guide their children’s growth. This approach allows fathers to play a key role in fostering a better future.
Jordan Shapiro is a professor at Temple University and the author of influential works, including Father Figure: How to Be a Feminist Dad. His research centers around gender norms, fatherhood, and societal shifts in masculinity. Jordan explores how traditional gender expectations influence parenting. And how embracing fluidity in these roles can better prepare children for a changing world. His insights explore the intersections of social justice, cultural change, and personal identity. He urges parents to reflect on how they model values and gender for their kids.
Beyond academia, Jordan’s storytelling captures both his personal journey and professional expertise. It offers practical advice to navigate modern parenting challenges. Jordan challenges norms while celebrating timeless values like empathy, kindness, and inclusivity. His work promotes a more thoughtful approach to parenting and masculinity. It aligns with the changes in today’s evolving culture.
Father Figure: How to Be a Feminist Dad by Jordan Shapiro
The New Childhood: Raising Kids to Thrive in a Connected World by Jordan Shapiro
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