As men, we struggle with unique forms of emotional strife. For many of us our emotions come in two flavors – explosive or suppressed. We are taught to push away bad feelings until they explode, hurting us and the ones that we love. That explosion can look like a few things, maybe it’s a blow up fight with our spouse, maybe it’s a depressive spiral or a bender, or maybe it’s a silent scream of quiet desperation every time we look in the mirror.
We’ve all been to a dark place at some point in our lives. We’ve felt like cowards, like losers, like failures. Each and every man that I’ve ever spoken to has this story. They’ve felt alone, misunderstood, and lost. But, as a culture, we aren’t supposed to talk about it. We are told to “man up” and push through. Slap on a fake smile and get back to work! Put all of your feelings into a box and lock the lid.
Here at Men’s Therapy Online we are blowing the lid off of that box of emotions. We know that true courage, true bravery comes from opening up the box and staring your demons in the face. Men don’t run from their issues, they confront them head on. The bad news is that you are about to dig into some seriously dark shit but the good news is that you don’t have to do it alone.
There’s hope on the other side of all that pain. By seeking therapy for men’s issues, you will not only improve your mental health but your physical health as well. Our therapists will help you to remove the barriers preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself. We’ll help you finally dial in that exercise routine, have that needed conversation with your boss, follow that dream that has sat on the shelf, and have a sex life that is out of this world!
Let’s take a minute to talk about how serious the men’s mental health crisis is:
Now, that should wake you up, we have a real problem on our hands!
Not only are men not seeking help for their issues but, it’s killing us. The stigma of asking for help is so great that good men out there are losing their lives. Men’s Therapy Online is trying to break that cycle. We provide mental health support for men, by men. We get that talking about our feelings doesn’t come naturally – we were told to suppress, not express. Our therapists are in your corner and, if we are going by these facts, might just save your life. Let’s work together to redefine asking for help as courageous, not shameful. The stakes are too high to suffer in silence.
This is the big one. Growing up, the only emotions that we are taught to express are happiness and anger. When you talk to guys about their feelings they often say “I’m pissed about that.” Anger is a familiar place for a lot of us. Whether it be the hot, explosive, rageful anger or a cold, bitter, everpresent, resentment. Men live in anger. It is as powerful as it is destructive.
While so many men are seething with anger our culture also tells us never to express it. We are told our anger is dangerous, especially to women, and to push it down. Like a container of toxic waste buried deep in the desert. But, that toxic waste leaks out and poisons our lives and our relationships. Even though we think we have it under control, when we take that hard look in the mirror, we know that we don’t.Learn More About Anger Management Therapy
There’s so much pressure out there. Pressure to succeed, to appear confident, to not disappoint, and to just be a man. It can be all-consuming and we can get frozen in decision paralysis. We can be rendered helpless and unable to act while time keeps ticking by.
Anxiety looks different in men and is often misunderstood. Instead of showing fear we lean into substance use, lie, or lash out in anger. The anxiety comes out sideways and pushes people away instead of drawing them in closer. This feedback loop just increases the anxiety until it’s all that we know.Learn More About Therapy For Anxiety
Since men have so few outlets for our emotions we often turn to drugs and alcohol to let loose. For many of us being tipsy or a little high gives us the internal permission to feel. So many of the men we work with describe these moments as the only times that they feel alive. It’s a sad fact that we have to lean on this crutch to feel more human.
So is it any surprise to hear that addiction is so common in men. Combine emotional repression with the male party culture and you have a recipe for disaster. Before we know it we can fall into a hole that is difficult to crawl out of. What used to be fun becomes the central pillar in our lives. Now we live to party instead of partying to celebrate our lives.Learn More About Addiction Therapy
Do we really have to do EVERYTHING? It can be so overwhelming to feel as though we have to build everything in our lives. We have to show up for our jobs, listen to our partners, maintain our physical health, and cultivate our social lives. At times the weight of it all can bring us down. There’s a pull to throw in the towel, pack it up, and hide.
Men are expected to initiate and lead but never to ask for help. This is a recipe for disaster. Listen closely, it is unsustainable to go it alone. We need help and we need other men. Depression has been described as “terminal loneliness.” It’s a pervasive lack of connection, meaning, and drive. Without connection with others all the color of life melts away.Learn More About Therapy For Depression
For many men divorce is the low point of their lives. Everything comes crashing down: your relationship, your family, and sometimes your job and home. Divorce can be a truly cataclysmic event that shakes us to our very core.
But, let’s take a hard look in that mirror again: it takes two to tango. To be blunt, the divorce wasn’t all your partner’s fault. Both of you created this trainwreck and it’s up to you to sift through the pieces and rebuild your life.Learn More About Therapy For Divorce
So things are already going well but you want to take it to the next level? Maybe you want to shift to remote work and go pro with your sport. Or how about being a digital nomad and traveling the world? What about finding a partner that really gets you and complements your strengths?
Once you have a solid foundation the world really opens up. MTO helps our members build the life they want and encourages non-traditional exploration. We want you to be the best version of yourself and we know that doesn’t fit into any box.
Whether we like it or not men are often defined by their jobs. It’s the first thing we mention when meeting other people and it’s the first thing we are judged on when looking for love. In the modern world the path upward isn’t so clear. In fact, success often contradicts the conventional wisdom of working your way up from the bottom.
Modern careers require modern solutions. Whether it be starting your own business, shaping your resume for the next jump, or moving into a non-traditional job such as a freelancer or content creator, our therapists have seen it all. We’ll help you to chart a course to success that builds on your strengths and insulates you from your weaknesses.
So, how can just talking help? Men’s issues therapy helps men to bring awareness to their inner demons and start to take back some of their power. By taking an honest look at ourselves we can start to identify where change is needed. Going through the pain instead of avoiding it teaches our body and minds that we are stronger than our secrets.
But, that’s not all you’ll get from Men’s Therapy Online. Our therapists understand how the male brain works and we know that just talking doesn’t cut it. That’s why they’ll work with you to create an action plan that will get you out of the rut. We also offer groups and community events with other like-minded men that will inspire you and hold you accountable to becoming a better you.
Men grow by doing, not by talking. At Men’s Therapy Online we take you beyond the therapy room and into the wilderness. We provide powerful milestone Men’s Retreats that have you pushing beyond long-held boundaries. Whether that be summiting a peak in the Rocky Mountains, surviving in the desert, or having a profound conversation around the campfire; you’ll do it with your brothers. You are not alone in this.
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