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Iron John

Iron John

Robert Bly

This books takes one of the few Grimms’ Fairy Tales about men, Iron John, and deconstructs it. There are many lost and forgotten messages embedded in mythology and folklore. Robert Bly aims to inspire men to get in touch with their primal and wild nature. In this book he provides a map of a coming of age journey that is sorely lacking in our American culture. His aim to help boys become men by finding their purpose and attaining mastery in their lives. This is old knowledge decoded and interpreted for the modern world.

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover

Robert Moore And Douglas Gillette

Cultures around the world have been educating young boys about what it means to be a man for eons. But, for some reason, in the modern era is nearly impossible to find instruction and guidance on how to embody one’s masculine nature. This book examines cross-cultural stories and messages about masculinity through the lens of the four Masculine Archetypes – King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover. A true man embodies each of these fully and fluidly. It takes hard work and courage to be a man – it’s not just a matter of time and age.

The Way Of The Superior Man

The Way Of The Superior Man

David Deida

This unique, and frankly, incendiary work provides an alternative to the two most common masculine typologies: the macho jerk and the new age wimp. Deida inspires readers to transcend their fears and insecurities in order to embody a new masculinity. This book is for anyone who relates with the masculine energy, independent of birth sex. He presents both ways to work with yourself and with others that carry the feminine energy.

The Way Of Men

The Way Of Men

Jack Donovan

In this book Donovan studies what it means to be a man in Western Culture. The Way of Men speaks to taboo topics like men’s predatory desires, their fantasies of violence, their inherent gang mentality and their drive to dominate others and the environment. He writes about how our society makes less and less room for these impulses and as such they can manifest as addiction, neurosis, and, in extreme cases, psychosis.

Ancient Wisdom

Meditations

Meditations

Marcus Aurelius

This is the foundational text of Stoicism written by one of the world’s greatest leaders. In this work Marcus Aurelius writes about the nature of the mind, reality, and ethics. Some gems include learning how to accept things that are outside of our control, the importance of charity and altruistic action, and the importance of self integrity and connection with community. It's also fascinating to see how this Western text mirrors some of the ideas of Buddhism - two very different cultures came to the same conclusions.

The Hero With A Thousand Faces

The Hero With A Thousand Faces

Joseph Campbell

Across all cultures the archetype of the Hero emerges throughout myth and legend. A hero is one who travels deep into the underworld, accomplishes superhuman tasks, and battles paranormal forces. Joseph Campbell, a Jungian Analyst, interprets Hero Stories from across the globe to find the common patterns and deeper meaning. Mythology is not just fairy tales or entertainment, it is a vector that our ancient ancestors used to communicate wisdom. The Hero’s Journey mirrors the psychoanalytic view of personal development where the underworld is a metaphor for the unconscious.

Hannibal And Me

Hannibal And Me

Andreas Kluth

This book may change your life. Kluth studies the lives of famous men throughout history in an effort to understand what it means to truly succeed. He digs into the lives of Hannibal of Carthage, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Ernest Shackleton, Carl Jung, and others. He presents a compelling text on the differences between tactics and strategy and how to triumph at both. Studying history intently can ensure that we don’t make the same mistakes again.

Soulcraft

Soulcraft

Bill Plotkin

Bill Plotkin has studied nature-based spirituality from the indigenous peoples of North and South America. With their permission he has passed on a framework and recipe for what he calls "soul work." This book is a step-by-step guide for developing a modern, yet, grounded spiritual practice based on an intimate connection with the planet. These practices truly are "next level" and act as a natural extension and expansion of therapy.

Buddhism

How to Meditate

How to Meditate

Pema Chödrön

This is the best book for those looking for a practical guide to meditation and Buddhism. It drops all the flowery language, metaphor, and obscurity that can be found in other books on mindfulness. Pema Chödrön not only teaches the reader how to meditate but she discusses how and when to apply Buddhist principles to their daily life. She makes the case for a holistic spiritual practice rather than a performative one.

Shambhala: The Sacred Path Of The Warrior

Shambhala: The Sacred Path Of The Warrior

Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche

This is the book that started me on my path of mindfulness and spiritual growth. It is written by the founder of Naropa University, Chogyam Trungpa. Trungpa brought the teachings of Tibetan Buddhism to the West during the Communist Revolution in China. This book is written for the Western audience and really speaks to the struggles of modern culture. It inspires readers to break out of their cocoons and embrace a life of searing vulnerability and openness. It is truly unique work and one that spoke to the very core of my being.

In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts

In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts

Gabor Maté

This book presents a revolutionary view of addiction and addictive behaviors. Mate focuses not on the substance but on the unmet need underneath. He views substance use as self-medication and encourages clients and clinicians to look beyond the surface and to treat the trapped soul within. This is a powerfully personal book full of moving stories of triumph over addiction by going into the darkness. His views strongly inform my practice as well as my own journey in recovery.

Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind

Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind

Shunryu Suzuki

This short but powerful book is THE place to start learning about Zen Buddhism. Zen is the school of Buddhism that was founded in Japan. It strips away almost all of the ritual, ceremony, and trappings of Tibetan or Indian Buddhism and focuses solely on the practice of meditation. Zen's only goal is to train presence and awareness. Zen practice and philosophy integrates well into Western Culture as it does not require any religious commitment or dogmatic thought.

Psychoanalysis

The Call Of Character: Living A Life Worth Living

The Call Of Character: Living A Life Worth Living

Mari Ruti

Psychoanalysis is a daunting body of knowledge that intimidates even seasoned psychotherapists. It’s full of complex ideas and seemingly contradictory theories and frameworks. Mari Ruti’s book, The Call of Character, does the miraculous job of presenting psychoanalytical ideas in an easy to read and relatable format. It seeks straight to the soul of the existential crisis so many of us find ourselves in and presents a way to overcome our own patterns of self-sabotage in order to become the best possible versions of ourselves. I highly recommend this book as an entry point for anyone looking to get into psychoanalysis in order to improve themselves.

Modern Man In Search Of A Soul

Modern Man In Search Of A Soul

Carl Jung

Of all the classic psychoanalysts, I connect the most with Carl Jung. He blends Depth Psychology with Eastern mystism. Jung took what Freud built and dove deeper into the unconscious by exploring the world of dreams and imagination. This book is a collection of essays and lectures, it’s a great place to start learning about Carl Jung and his approach. This is one of the books that I keep coming back to and keep learning more from. It’s a fascinating read that may just cause you to look at the world, and yourself, differently.

The Group Therapy Experience

The Group Therapy Experience

Dr. Louis R. Ormont

I can’t count how many times I’ve recommended this book to new clinicians! It is essential for anyone looking to get into Modern Psychoanalytic Group or anyone that finds themselves in a leadership or management position. It details common group phenomena and presents techniques for building a healing community. Ormont presents a Modern Psychoanalytic view to group psychotherapy that I aim to embody when I facilitate.

The Art of Loving

The Art of Loving

Erich Fromm

Erich Fromm takes complex psychoanalytic theory and translates it for the everyman. In this book he talks about one of the most important pieces of our humanity - love. Fromm takes on the insane task of trying to define love. He differentiates true love from lust and trauma bonding. Throughout this book he presents a spiritual, committed, and intimate love that each of us can aspire to.

Career and Life Skills

Getting Things Done: The Art Of Stress-Free Productivity

Getting Things Done: The Art Of Stress-Free Productivity

David Allen

This book provides a organizational system that is a powerful tool for working with anxiety. I personally use this system to organize my business and life. I feel as though I have a leg up! David Allen’s tools have helped tremendously to quiet my mind and allow me to be more present in the moment.

The E Myth

The E Myth

Michael Gerber

This book is a must read for anyone starting a new business. I’ve personally used this book as a foundation for all of my ventures and it hasn’t failed me. In the E Myth Gerber breaks down the myth of entrepreneurship. Most entrepreneurs don’t set out to be one, they are usually just people who don’t want to work under a boss. They are trained with technical skills but lack skills in business development, marketing, and management. The E Myth aims to fill these holes by offering a crash course written for the disgruntled technician.

Deep Work

Deep Work

Cal Newport

So many people talk about how modern technology has created a shallow world of distractions. We are quick to blame the internet and social media for our inability to focus and concentrate. While a lot of those theories are well-founded very few people are talking about what to do about it; Cal Newport presents solutions to how to retrain your brain how to focus in a highly distracted world. I attribute much of my self discipline to this book.

The Four Disciplines Of Execution

The Four Disciplines Of Execution

Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, And Jim Huling

Anyone can dream but very few can execute. How many of you have set a goal or vision for your future only to have it melt through your fingertips? This book provides an easy to understand system that includes Focusing on the Wildly Important Goals; Acting on Lead Measures; Keeping a Compelling Scoreboard; Creating a Cadence of Accountability in order to organize yourself or your business. This is a must read for entrepreneurs, small business owners, or team leaders of any kind.

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