The Importance of Community

The Importance of Community

February 22, 2024

We all exist in communities, our country, our ethnic groups, our gender, our family. Each of these identities shapes and molds us throughout our life. Our relationships with each community is complex we are given opportunities, expectations and sometimes traumas.

Most of this is unconscious, we often don’t know how a community has truly affected us until we’re out of it and can look back. Only then can we see the assumptions that we’ve made.

Communities offer belonging and as humans, we need that. But belonging isn’t always copacetic. Sometimes our place of belonging is at the bottom of a hierarchy. Or as the “quiet one,” or as an aggressor. We can get stuck in roles that can either empower or disempower us.

So why is community important?

Well, as humans, we need each other to grow – simple as that.

We need to have a ton of practice navigating all the social complexity of communities. Only by trying on different identities can we discover who we actually are. To grow we need to push up against each other in conflict or comradery.

Engaging in community offers endless opportunities to sharpen and hone ourselves.

At Men’s Therapy Online we believe that men need more community. Real and raw community has been lost or replaced with digital simulations. Historically, we needed each other to survive so, we had to learn to live together. Now, we can disengage community and avoid conflict. We can toggle our relationships on and off, on-demand.

While this is certainly convenient is weakens us overtime. Our ability to evolve and introspect atrophy. As that fades so too does our ability to accomplish great things. We become more and more isolated.

There is an epidemic of loneliness sweeping the nation, that much is clear. Social institutions are failing and we are becoming more polarized. At MTO we want to do our part to combat this trend. We aim to offer spaces were men can connect and sharpen each other. Where we can work through differences and encourage each other to grow. Whether it’s our Men’s Groups Retreats, or our new Book Club we just need to get men talking to each other.

Men need the opportunity and support to write their own story, break the chains of trauma, and shape the world around them and their place in it. We need to take off our masks and shed our stuck roles. We owe it to ourselves, our loved ones, and the world at large.

Men, we need to step up and lean in.

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